Let’s talk about synchronicities and if they really help us or hinder us.

In the new age community, it has become a popular thing to look for synchronicities or a sign by looking outside of ourselves and becoming hyper-focused on signs from the universe/ancestors/spirit guides when making decisions. Now don’t get me wrong, making decisions in this way can sometimes be very helpful, but what it also does is teach us to override our inbuilt guidance system aka intuition, and look outside at something ‘higher’ which creates a bind or, a contract with whatever source is giving us the information.

Now be honest, how many times have you really wanted to do something and everything within you is saying ‘yes yes yes”, but you fail to make a decision because you are waiting for that vital sign? I know, hand on heart I have done it more times than I care to mention.

I never used to be able to make any decision without seeing my sign first, I guess deep down it was the fear of getting it wrong. Can you guess my sign? Look at my business logo for a clue. When I look back now, I know I had an unconscious belief that my authority and desire for something wasn’t enough. I was conditioned to bypass my own feelings and guidance by looking outside of me for a sign, Looking at this from a deeper level of awareness I now see this gave me a safety net that allowed me to avoid taking accountability for my actions later down the line if it all went wrong. Genius hey!

The reason we humans do this, we have all been born into a system that doesn’t value strong, free-thinking, and confident people and instead sets us up for a life of obedience and suppression. We are easier to control that way if we aren’t in touch with our power. We are taught to trust the doctor, the teacher, the police office, the judge, the government, as they know what’s best for us, right? As this conditioning starts at such a young age, it’s hard to break by will alone, it takes practice, awareness, and conscious effort. I believe, that this is the reason a lot of people are seduced by and fall into the spiritual, new age trap, as it’s kinda the same! We think we are empowering ourselves by trusting so heavily in a higher power and synchronicities, but without the awareness of self, it is no better than placing power in the hands of governments.

I want to tell you about a time where I was desperately lost in my life, I was working at my corporate job, I was chronically ill with burnout, endometriosis and was recovering from poor dietary choices. I was so unhappy and lost in my career, but I was too afraid to leave because I didn’t know what I had to offer the world, this made me too afraid to take that leap and change my own life and so I froze. Why? Because I had no awareness of myself or my body, I was heavily into mystical and spiritual practices that took me away from my center and inner authority, and so I stayed in a desperately horrible situation because I hadn’t seen the sign! You see I was waiting for an external sign to give me permission to leave my career behind when all the while my internal signs were already there and were screaming at me for change. I had chronic anxiety, excruciating heavy periods that involved vomiting and fainting, depression, tiredness, insomnia, burnout, feeling teary most days, overspending, over-exercising. However, experiencing my body breaking down wasn’t a  big enough sign because I was waiting for that butterfly to land on me and tell me what to do lol. Funny hey!

When I eventually had enough and made the decision to leave, I did receive the coolest confirmation which told me I was on the right path. I believe just had to have the courage to make the decision for myself before that could even enter my awareness.

It was my last day of employment in my corporate job, I was feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and worried that I had made the wrong decision in leaving my once dream job behind. I was in the reception chatting to the building manager and HR manager about my adventure. I remember feeling really excited that I was going to the Amazon rainforest for a three-month period and I was sharing with them the amazing things that I had planned, I felt a sense of pride as I glanced behind them at the huge company logo hanging on the wall, I felt a sense of real achievement, having been very successful working at the second biggest hair color house in the world, I also felt like this was the right time to leave. As I drew my eyes away from the logo and back to them I noticed to my right an empty office (all of our office and conference rooms were floors to ceiling glass) in that empty office was a bookcase, which was also empty except one lone book on the top shelf, I remember thinking how weird it was and it really caught my awareness. As I took my attention to that book on the shelf I almost burst into tears. The book on the shelf was Bruce Parry’s Amazon, and what makes this so powerful was my longing to go to the Amazon jungle and connect with indigenous people and their medicine came from watching his shows “Tribe and Amazon”. It was through these shows that I learned of the shipobo people and their visionary plant medicine Ayahuasca, it was through Bruce’s experience of ayahuasca that sparked my own curiosity and desire to go to the jungle and seek this medicine for healing. This was the very thing i was going to experience after leaving this building!  This to me was a nod from the universe that everything was going to be ok. Had I not taken action this sign may never have appeared for me.

 
What this taught me is that it’s important to trust our internal guidance system first and not be lured into things that have an energy of seduction or power. But how do we do that?

Trust that the reason you are feeling to do something is already enough, your higher self is always guiding you and will always guide you towards the most enriching places and decisions. Once you have mastered this you won’t be tied to spirit guides or ancestors who always want payment for magic (they usually take payment in the form of our soul or energy levels).

The best ways that I have found to improve connection and communication to your higher self are;

  • Free flow journaling and dream recording.
  • Breathwork and myofascial unwinding your body (attend one of my events to learn how)
  • Soul communication – stand with soft knees and close your eyes, begin to ask your higher self to show you signs for yes/no/maybe/look left/look right/lookup and look down. When you practice this without judgment you will begin to feel your body being moved in different directions which will always be the same. eg yes, maybe a slight pushing sensation behind you which pushes you forward. while no may be the opposite. This has worked really well for me and I have even managed to find my way home from unfamiliar areas without a sat nav.
  • Meditation
  • Elimination of fluoride from your drinking water and oral health products.
  • Spend time in nature
  • Have regular alone time.

See how you experience your reality when relaxed and fully present in your body. Do this focusing on your breath and spine, the tip of your nose. What you can see, smell, taste, and touch, (sensory awareness), where you are in the room in relationship to your furniture, etc, what are your thoughts, what are your emotions, what is your sensory awareness.

See what changes for you?  let me know how you received this message and if you agree or disagree?